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  • #16
    Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

    Originally posted by aabi2cool
    :rose
    Asalam-0-Alikum
    wasey app ki gif file to open naeen hoi
    lakin topic ka name dehk ker andaza ho gia hay key us main kia kaha gia ho ga
    islam ko kitna latara gia ho ga key dehko islam nay keeon ijzat de hay polygomy ki , keeon mard ik sey zeada shadi ker sakta hay , akir keeon and keeon and so on

    tafseel main janey sey pehlay itna arz ker don key

    Islam wo wahid mazhab hay jis ney bakayada sirf one shadi ka concept dia hay.

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    from Dr Zakir Nayak web site .... irf.net
    POLYGAMY

    Question:

    Why is a man allowed to have more than one wife in Islam? i.e. why is polygamy allowed in Islam?

    Answer:

    Definition of Polygamy

    1. Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is polygyny where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In Islam, limited polygyny is permitted; whereas polyandry is completely prohibited.

    Now coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than one wife?


    2. The Qur’an is the only religious scripture in the world that says,"marry only one".


    The Qur’an is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase ‘marry only one’. There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.

    Many Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Krishna had several wives.

    In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.

    Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had three wives, and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (95% C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an edict against it. The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife.


    3. Hindus are more polygynous than Muslims


    The report of the ‘Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam’, published in 1975 mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages between the years 1951 and 1961 was 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among the Muslims. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in India to have more than one wife. Despite it being illegal, Hindus have more multiple wives as compared to Muslims. Earlier, there was no restriction even on Hindu men with respect to the number of wives allowed. It was only in 1954, when the Hindu Marriage Act was passed that it became illegal for a Hindu to have more than one wife. At present it is the Indian Law that restricts a Hindu man from having more than one wife and not the Hindu scriptures.

    Let us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.


    4. Qur’an permits limited polygyny


    As I mentioned earlier, Qur’an is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says ‘marry only one’. The context of this phrase is the following verse from Surah Nisa of the Glorious Qur’an:

    "Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one."

    [Al-Qur’an 4:3]

    Before the Qur’an was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygyny and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women, only on the condition that he deals justly with them.

    In the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says:

    "Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women...."

    [Al-Qur’an 4:129]

    Therefore polygyny is not a rule but an exception. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife.

    Broadly, Islam has five categories of Do’s and Don’ts:

    ‘Fard’ i.e. compulsory or obligatory

    ‘Mustahab’ i.e. recommended or encouraged

    ‘Mubah’ i.e. permissible or allowed

    ‘Makruh’ i.e. not recommended or discouraged

    ‘Haraam’ i.e. prohibited or forbidden

    Polygyny falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. It cannot be said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as compared to a Muslim who has only one wife.


    5. Average life span of females is more than that of males


    By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio. A female child has more immunity than a male child. A female child can fight the germs and diseases better than the male child. For this reason, during the pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the females.

    During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. More men die due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers.


    6. India has more male population than female due to female foeticide and infanticide


    India is one of the few countries, along with the other neighbouring countries, in which the female population is less than the male population. The reason lies in the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are identified as females. If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have more females as compared to males.

    7. World female population is more than male population


    In the USA, women outnumber men by 7.8 million. New York alone has one million more females as compared to the number of males, and of the male population of New York one-third are gays i.e sodomites. The U.S.A as a whole has more than twenty-five million gays. This means that these people do not wish to marry women. Great Britain has four million more females as compared to males. Germany has five million more females as compared to males. Russia has nine million more females than males. God alone knows how many million more females there are in the whole world as compared to males.

    8. Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not practical


    Even if every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands (considering that America has twenty five million gays). There would be more than four million females in Great Britain, 5 million females in Germany and nine million females in Russia alone who would not be able to find a husband.

    Suppose my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in USA, or suppose your sister happens to be one of the unmarried women in USA. The only two options remaining for her are that she either marries a man who already has a wife or becomes public property. There is no other option. All those who are modest will opt for the first.

    In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life.

    Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second.

    There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.
    People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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    • #17
      Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

      app key swoalon ka jowab
      1. bagair kisi solid waja key dosri ya teesri shadi kerna bora fail hay
      2. aik bewi key marney key bad ager koi dosri shadi kerta hay to yeh us key liya behtar hay
      3. dosri shadi kerna her giz islami fail naeen hay . islam main koi shart naeen hay key acha muslam sirf wo ho ga key jo 2 ya 2 sey zeada shadian keray. bora is leya samjha jata hay key yeh indo pak moashrey key liya odd hay
      keeon key yaaahan zana kerna behtar samjaha jata hay as compare to shadi
      aik mard jo kis ki bewi mar jaey wo ager zana kerta pirey to bora naeen lakin ager dosri shadi ker lay to bora ban jata hay keeon key indian shadi ko bora samjtay haan
      People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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      • #18
        Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

        Originally posted by Me Here
        Walikum Assalam!

        Khud ko kuch lamhaat k liye lerki consider kariin or phir sochain k apkey husband ager apkey bawajood doosri shadi ker lain……apko aisa feel ho ga jese sab kuch toot gaya…..ik girl apne Parents/ghar jahan wo 22/24 saal guzaar ker aati hai wo sab sirf ik family k liye or more specifically ik insaan k liye sab kuch choor ker aati hai.
        walikum as salam
        wo shaks muslim naeen ho sakta jo key do shadian keray and un main insaaf na keray.
        keeon key dosri shadi ki ijazat hi islam us wakat deta hay ager wo insaaf kernay ka wada kerta hay.
        ager wo one sided ho jata hay to zulm kerta hay and zaalim kehlay ga
        People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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        • #19
          Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

          Originally posted by ASAD
          . baat dosre shadi ke ho rahe hy.or yahe mera point tha. ager koe insaan apne pehle bewe ke hoty howy dosre orat per ase negah dalta hay.. or hawas pore karny k liya shadi ker ley.. is tara wo kitne shadiaan kary ga..?
          or is baat ki kia qarunty hy ke dosre shadi karny ke baad wo kisee 3rd orat ko be asy he apne wife banany k liya Nahe sochy ga.. Sorry to say isee baat ko main ney or khalil ney NOTE kia hay..
          haan ager ko beshara orat hay... koe yateem larki hay.. to yeh reason kuch munasib hay..
          meray bahi
          app ney likha hay key hawas pori kernay key liya dosri and tesri shadi ker lay

          mujeh yeh bataeen key hawas pori kernay key liya kia shadi kerni lazmi hay
          jeen naeen
          jis ko hawas hoti hay wo to bagair shadi key bi hawaas pori ker lay ga just like indians us ko shadi ka jambela palney ki kia zarorat hay

          meray bahi kisi per ilzam laganey sey pehlay and guman kernay sey pehlay soch lia kareen
          app ney kia us ka dil cheer ker dehka hay key wo sirf hawas pori kernay key liya dosri shadi ker raha hay

          Hadees mobarika key motabik
          aik dafa gazwa uhad main ik sahabi ik kafir ko katal kernay lagey to jab talwar gardan tak pohanch choki thee , to us ney kalma per lia ,
          sahabi ney guman kia key shayed is ney mot key kof sey kalma perha hay and dohka dena chata hay , and isi guaman ki base per us ko mar dala

          jab Hazoor PBUH ko is barey main pata laga to us key ney farmaya key kia tum ney us ka dil cheer ker dehha tha key tumain pata tha key us ney jan bachaney key liya kalma perha hay . and Hazoor PBUH kafi arsa tak un sahabi sey naraz rahey

          so meray dosto , guaman ki base per kisi ko bora bhala kehana bohat bori adat hay and is main app hi ka nuksan hota hay
          to khial raka kareen
          People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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          • #20
            Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

            Originally posted by Me Here
            Koi lerki bhi khud se is profession main nahii aati…..
            app bohat masoom haain

            what do you think about show biz.

            show biz bi isi profession per perda dal ker khobsorat banaya gia profession hay .
            People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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            • #21
              Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

              Originally posted by ASAD

              Aabi bhai shaid ap khalil ka matlab nae samjy.. enjoy mean sirf Hawas k liya.. os is kaam main Islami khukam ko dhal bana liya
              app bi zara sochey key us ney dhal keeon banaya jab key hamaray mosashrey main shadi key bagair bi to hawas pori ho jati hay and kisi ko kano kan khabar naeen hoti

              pir shadi ker key nishana keeon baney ,

              app ney to us ko dhal keh dia , mujeh is baat ka answer deen key ager wo dhal na bantey , shadi na kertay and wasey hi sab kuch ker atey to app kia kehtay . meray khial main kush hotey , esa hi hay na
              People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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              • #22
                Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                as topic per bhut kuch lekha hai .. as thread mein

                http://www.pegham.net/showthread.php?t=9632

                as key last few pages dekh lein..

                app key question ke answer yeh hain

                1. 2nd shadi main ko bhi problem nahin.. agher koi 2non biwion ke ek jasy rakhy dono ka haq dey tu its fine

                2.koi kisi bhi ummer mein shaidi kery ... 2nd ya 3rd its fine no prbolem with it

                3.log kiyon bura samjhty hain?
                many reasons for it.........
                per ziyda ter loogon ke aqal as qabil nahin key woh 4 shadiyon ke hikmat ko samjhin..... oper sey MODREN log.. as koi bhut bura kehty hain aur khud .............. chalooo jany doo....
                Zaid Hammid on Sawat War..
                A must Watch..

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                • #23
                  Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                  yaar etni lambi behas....k bawajood...
                  main ny newpaper main para hay k
                  Arabian loag to shadion kee century ker jaty hain...
                  to aisi halat main kia jawab huna chayee

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                  • #24
                    Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                    Originally posted by filbahere
                    app bohat masoom haain

                    what do you think about show biz.

                    show biz bi isi profession per perda dal ker khobsorat banaya gia profession hay .

                    maine us typical profession ki baat ki thi k us main koi khud se nahii jaata
                    showbizz main bhi girl khud nahii jaati...usko ghar se support milti hai.....ghar se hi aisa enviroment milta hai jab hi to wo itni bold hooti hai k showbiz join karey......

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                    • #25
                      Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                      Originally posted by Khalil
                      yaar etni lambi behas....k bawajood...
                      main ny newpaper main para hay k
                      Arabian loag to shadion kee century ker jaty hain...
                      to aisi halat main kia jawab huna chayee
                      unko chaapera maarna chahiye:slap: :fuming:
                      cricket ka match hai ya shaadi?:fuming:
                      lerki ki zindaagi hai ya kheel tamaasha?:fuming:

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                      • #26
                        Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                        Originally posted by Me Here
                        unko chaapera maarna chahiye:slap: :fuming:
                        cricket ka match hai ya shaadi?:fuming:
                        lerki ki zindaagi hai ya kheel tamaasha?:fuming:
                        Ok yeh left side wala Arabi hay:slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap ::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap:: slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::sl ap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap::slap ::slap::slap::slap:

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                        • #27
                          Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                          Originally posted by Me Here
                          unko chaapera maarna chahiye:slap: :fuming:
                          cricket ka match hai ya shaadi?:fuming:
                          lerki ki zindaagi hai ya kheel tamaasha?:fuming:
                          what `do you say about Holy Profit PBUH
                          he was also arab` and` married 12 times.

                          so her baat `kehney` sey pehlay `thora `sa soch lena` chayeh
                          People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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                          • #28
                            Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                            Originally posted by filbahere
                            what `do you say about Holy Profit PBUH
                            he was also arab` and` married 12 times.

                            so her baat `kehney` sey pehlay `thora `sa soch lena` chayeh
                            PROPHET SAW ne jo 11 shaadiaan kiin.....wo hikmat k tehaat kiin....or hum unarabs kii bat ker rahe hain jo aj kal paae jaate hain......jo begher kise maqsad k 100 + shaadian kerte hain jinkey liye shaadi or girl ki life sirf kheel tamaasha hai
                            apne PROPHET SAW ki baat ki.....to unho ne 11 shaadion k baad apni ummat ko maximum 4 hi shaadion ki ijazat q di?
                            or jab ik muslim 4 shaadian ker sakta hai according 2 ISLAM.......to 100+ shaadian ISLAM main kaahan ijaazat hai inki???

                            so maine jo ooper boola tha wo un arabs k baarey main boola tha jo 100+ shaadian kerte hain.....or unhe pata bhi nahii hoota k previous wife or bacche kahaan hain even ik case maine suna tha arabs ka ap sun lain to apko bhi un per ghussa ai ga.......

                            aise arabs jo 100+ shaadian kerte hain WAQAI CHAAPEREY K LAAIQ HAIN!:fuming: :slap: :fuming:

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                            • #29
                              Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                              Originally posted by Me Here
                              PROPHET SAW ne jo 11 shaadiaan kiin.....wo hikmat k tehaat kiin....or hum unarabs kii bat ker rahe hain jo aj kal paae jaate hain......jo begher kise maqsad k 100 + shaadian kerte hain jinkey liye shaadi or girl ki life sirf kheel tamaasha hai
                              apne PROPHET SAW ki baat ki.....to unho ne 11 shaadion k baad apni ummat ko maximum 4 hi shaadion ki ijazat q di?
                              or jab ik muslim 4 shaadian ker sakta hai according 2 ISLAM.......to 100+ shaadian ISLAM main kaahan ijaazat hai inki???

                              so maine jo ooper boola tha wo un arabs k baarey main boola tha jo 100+ shaadian kerte hain.....or unhe pata bhi nahii hoota k previous wife or bacche kahaan hain even ik case maine suna tha arabs ka ap sun lain to apko bhi un per ghussa ai ga.......

                              aise arabs jo 100+ shaadian kerte hain WAQAI CHAAPEREY K LAAIQ HAIN!:fuming: :slap: :fuming:
                              app ko kis nay `kaha key sirf 4 ki limit hay `

                              according to Quran`
                              "Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one."

                              [Al-Qur’an 4:3]

                              yahan 4 per koi limit naeen` hay , ayat ka matlab yeh `hay key muslim key liya sirf 1 shadi `ki ijazat` hay` lakin` ager` wo adal `ker sakta `hay to `wo 2 keray , 3 karey `ya 4.
                              jumlay `sey andaza `hota hay key yeh koi limit naeen hay

                              second kuch ulma to is key barey `main yeh` bi` kehtay `haan key yeh` sirf aik `wakat ki` baat` hay , key at `a` time` 4` raksaktey `haan`,` `for `life ki `baat `yahan `naeen` hay.` keeon` `key` adal ki` baat to us `per lagoo` hi naeen ho gi jo aik bewi key mernay key baad dosri `shadi keray` ga
                              People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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                              • #30
                                Re: ~!~ Dosri Shadi Aur Hamara Moashra~!~

                                islam ney 4 shadion` ki ijazat naeen` di
                                ijazat sirf 1 ki di hay lakin` majbori main` sharayat key sath mazeed kernay ki ijazat di hay key wo aik sey zeada shadi ker sakey.
                                People should not be afraid of their governments. Governments should be afraid of their people

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