Larkiyon Sey Aik Sawaal

[Masood]

Re: Larkiyon Sey Aik Sawaal

There are reasons behind that, is mei sara ka sara kasoor baitey ka hota hai.

Saima I m not agree keh sara qassor betey ka hota. I think what we need is a sense of understanding to accept the reality of relations.

Is mein qasoor har kisi ka hai. Saas ko yeh baat samajhni chahiye keh beta pehley mera beta tha, magar ab woh kisi ka shohar hai, aur bivi sey ziyada zaroorat betey ki kisi aur ko nahin hoti. Beta jo baap ban geya hai uski aulad ko uski zaroorat hai, lehaza, saas ko chahiye keh woh apna haq kuchh kam kar dey. Isi tarha bahoo ko samajhna chahiye keh beta uska shohar hai magar woh aik beta bhi hai, jis tarha ussey apney bachon key baap ki zaroorat hai isi tarha saas ko bhi apney betey ki zaroorat hai. Haan betey ko bhi is qabil hona chahiye keh woh is ballance ko barqrar rakhey aur kisi aik taraf ziyada jhukao mat kar ley...

[Masood]

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Ager bahoo apney husband ke sath separate rahey aur saas ka oun ke ghar sirf kabhi kabhi aan ajana ho to waha saas bahoo ka rishta saas aur damad ke rishtey se zada behter ho ga.

Do we need that??? Kya yehi masla ka hal hai?? I don't thik so ....

[Spy009]

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Ager bahoo apney husband ke sath separate rahey aur saas ka oun ke ghar sirf kabhi kabhi aan ajana ho to waha saas bahoo ka rishta saas aur damad ke rishtey se zada behter ho ga.

Aisa aaj kal 90% ho raha hai, log single family rahna chahtey hain instead of joint family with parents. lekin yehan wo pyar nahin rahta jo sach mein maan baap (saas sasur) se milna chahiye.
Aur jahan tak mera khyal hai ke wo maan baap jisney parwarish kiya, parwan chadhaya, shaadi ke baad biwi ke saath alag rah kar unn aged maan baap ko ignore nahin kar saktey, iske liye thoda bahut saas bahu mein chakh chukh ho to no problem bardasht kiya jaana chahiyei, but door rah kar ignore...it's not fair

['SamRazi']

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Aisa aaj kal 90% ho raha hai, log single family rahna chahtey hain instead of joint family with parents. lekin yehan wo pyar nahin rahta jo sach mein maan baap (saas sasur) se milna chahiye.
Aur jahan tak mera khyal hai ke wo maan baap jisney parwarish kiya, parwan chadhaya, shaadi ke baad biwi ke saath alag rah kar unn aged maan baap ko ignore nahin kar saktey, iske liye thoda bahut saas bahu mein chakh chukh ho to no problem bardasht kiya jaana chahiyei, but door rah kar ignore...it's not fair

kahan ho raha hai ?????

Humarey mulk ki 75 % aabadi aaj bhi dehato'n (villages) mei rehti hai, waha aisa nahi ho raha, baqi jo 25 % sghahron mei hain oun mei se may bi 15% aisey ho gai jesa aap en kaha.

['SamRazi']

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Saima I m not agree keh sara qassor betey ka hota. I think what we need is a sense of understanding to accept the reality of relations.

Is mein qasoor har kisi ka hai. Saas ko yeh baat samajhni chahiye keh beta pehley mera beta tha, magar ab woh kisi ka shohar hai, aur bivi sey ziyada zaroorat betey ki kisi aur ko nahin hoti. Beta jo baap ban geya hai uski aulad ko uski zaroorat hai, lehaza, saas ko chahiye keh woh apna haq kuchh kam kar dey. Isi tarha bahoo ko samajhna chahiye keh beta uska shohar hai magar woh aik beta bhi hai, jis tarha ussey apney bachon key baap ki zaroorat hai isi tarha saas ko bhi apney betey ki zaroorat hai. Haan betey ko bhi is qabil hona chahiye keh woh is ballance ko barqrar rakhey aur kisi aik taraf ziyada jhukao mat kar ley...

Baat to wahi aayi na, lerkey per, ousey hi samajhna aur dono rishton mei balance rakhna chahiye.

['SamRazi']

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Do we need that??? Kya yehi masla ka hal hai?? I don't thik so ....

yeh masley ka hal nahi, balkey is baat k ajawab hai ke saas bahoo ka rishta nakhushgawar kiu hota hai aur saar aur damad ka rishta khushgawar kiu

[Masood]

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Baat to wahi aayi na, lerkey per, ousey hi samajhna aur dono rishton mei balance rakhna chahiye.

I don't think keh aik insaan apney rishton mein ballance akeley sey ballance rakh sakta hai. Ballance rakhney key liye har kisi ko apney apney rishtey ko pehchanena ho ga aur mil jul ker apney rishton ko nibhana ho ga, ballance jabhi rehta hai - not by a single person.

[Spy009]

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kahan ho raha hai ?????

Humarey mulk ki 75 % aabadi aaj bhi dehato'n (villages) mei rehti hai, waha aisa nahi ho raha, baqi jo 25 % sghahron mei hain oun mei se may bi 15% aisey ho gai jesa aap en kaha.

Globaly aap jayeza len to sabhi mulkon mein ho raha hai, US, Europe, China, India, and all Middle east coutnries, Middle east muslim countries mein yeh 1st condition hai ke ladka shadi karne se 4-5 din pehle maan baap se alag ghar kar le.

['SamRazi']

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I don't think keh aik insaan apney rishton mein ballance akeley sey ballance rakh sakta hai. Ballance rakhney key liye har kisi ko apney apney rishtey ko pehchanena ho ga aur mil jul ker apney rishton ko nibhana ho ga, ballance jabhi rehta hai - not by a single person.

yahi to baat hai, men simply stay out of it, and at the end saas bahoo ka jhagra :tauba

[Spy009]

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Ballance rakhney key liye har kisi ko apney apney rishtey ko pehchanena ho ga aur mil jul ker apney rishton ko nibhana ho ga, ballance jabhi rehta hai - not by a single person.

Yes correct, lekin yeh baat saas bahoo ke samajh mein kahan aati hai.

['SamRazi']

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Globaly aap jayeza len to sabhi mulkon mein ho raha hai, US, Europe, China, India, and all Middle east coutnries, Middle east muslim countries mein yeh 1st condition hai ke ladka shadi karne se 4-5 din pehle maan baap se alag ghar kar le.

Let us forget US, China etc....there are many htings about them which we can accept ot follw, laikin is masley se jo log dochar hai wo mostly ppl living in India and pak, not in foreign countries.

[Masood]

Re: Larkiyon Sey Aik Sawaal

Globaly aap jayeza len to sabhi mulkon mein ho raha hai, US, Europe, China, India, and all Middle east coutnries, Middle east muslim countries mein yeh 1st condition hai ke ladka shadi karne se 4-5 din pehle maan baap se alag ghar kar le.

mahool ka bohat bada asar hota hai spy - we don't talk about europeans - but our community living abroad - mera khiyaal hai keh abhi bhi bohat sey log joint rehna pasand kartey hain. Kuchh din pehley main ney kuchh bachon aur bachiyon ki conversation suni, woh kah rahey they keh hamein apni family key saath rehna pasand hai aur ham aagey bhi apni family hi keh saath rehna chahein ge.

['SamRazi']

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Yes correct, lekin yeh baat saas bahoo ke samajh mein kahan aati hai.

Being the third party samjhaya kero na, khudh to sara din bahir guzartey hain yeh log

[Spy009]

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saas aur damad ka rishta khushgawar kiu

Yehi to kamal hai ke saas aur damad ka rishta khushgawar kyon hai.

[Spy009]

Re: Larkiyon Sey Aik Sawaal

baqi kal jawab doonga, now I'm leaving