Mubahisa: Bachpan Main Engagements....?

[RulzZ]

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My dear brother, to me the word "Jahliyat" is something which justifies at this occasion. It implies to the illitracy and lack of sense or less sense. If you have alternative to it, do tell me i will use accordingly

Zaalim aik "URDU" kay "LAFZ" kay leay "2 LINE" ki "ENGLISH" :kr:, jaan-e-ScorpioN bachpan main "ENGAGEMENT" ki sab nay he mukhalfat ki hai, aur kaha hai kay yeh ghalat hai aisa nahee karna chaheay, aap bhi yeh alfaz istemal kar saktay thay aur shayad hain.....
misal kay tour par aap kay waldain is mozo par baat kar'rhay hoon kay falaN nay apnay bachoN ki bachpan main mangni kardi, woh bhi is cheez ki mukhalfat kar'rhay hoon laikin kia aap un kay samnay yeh keh saktay hain kay "unhooN nay jahliyat ka saboot dia hai....!!" shayad nahee :mm:, aur agar HAAN to SALAM NAMASTAY.......

[Mr. Sialkoty]

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ok...if i say ke wo loog jahalat ka saboot dete hein jo apne buchon ki mangni buchpan mein ker dete hein...kia ub sahi he ??? hope u have no objection now.

[Shaim]

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Thanks for liking my opinion :)

Aap ne kaha ke buchpan mein engagement ke benifits per discuss karien gi aap...ub mein aap ko aik cheez batana chahta hoon ke Musalmaanon per Alchohol haram karar di gai he...kia us ke benifit nahi hein...zaroor hein...lekin us ke benifits se ziada us ke nuksanaat hein.

Hamain collectively soochna chahiye ke buchpan mein engagement mein ager aik aadh koi faida hay bhi to us ke nuksanaat us se ziada hoon ge. In my eyes labelling an innocent child in such a delicate age is totally non-sense. Decisions buchon ke bara honay pe bhi liye ja saktay hein..bulke us waqt liye gaye decisions ziada achay hotay hein...kyoon ke waqt guzar chuka hota he...halaat tabdeel ho chukay hotay hein...when ur children are adult it is the best time for u to decide their fate...but still a mutual agreement of the parties who are going to get engaged is something very important.

ji or yahaan bhi i agree wid u
but jab is topic ko discuss kiya hai to hum iski dono aspects discuss karin ge
or then final conclusion takk pohanch paain ge:)

so :insha: time miltey hi main benefits bhi share karoon gi
KHUSH RAHIYYE!

[Shaim]

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Well it was not something to flatter you...but true...khush rahiye...and keep on moving with ur good work :)

ab to main flat ho gae:kr:

[Z.]

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ji or yahaan bhi i agree wid u
but jab is topic ko discuss kiya hai to hum iski dono aspects discuss karin ge
or then final conclusion takk pohanch paain ge:)

so :insha: time miltey hi main benefits bhi share karoon gi
KHUSH RAHIYYE!

Mmm barish

mujhey inteyzar ho ga key jab aap is key benefits per baat karein gi coz meyri nazar mey as such koi bhi nahi hai :)

[zeeshan]

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hmmm me here aap aik acha topic le ker aae ha :rose

mere khial se bachpan kie engament sehe nehi ha jese kie aanchl ne kaha mein un ki bat se 100% etfiaq kerta ho or es trah kie bejor shadiya hamesha nakam hi hote ha

[sardar ali]

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It is totally a stupid action by parents. Yes, if the parents or friends families keep an idea in their mind and they wish to manage a couple which they feel suitable, it is acceptable. But no excuse for the engagement during childhood. Parents must show the responsibilities that they are boud to advise their children and have no right to pose their ideas by force. Engagement in the childhood is a sort of unauthorize decision they take forceably. This is not fair. No one can forecast the thinking, mind set and choice of a child not even parents.

This unpleasant custom is still continued in most of our areas but this is one of those numerous customs which are a shame for our muslim society.

[Shaim]

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Mmm barish

mujhey inteyzar ho ga key jab aap is key benefits per baat karein gi coz meyri nazar mey as such koi bhi nahi hai :)

sorry sis main kaafi late ho gae
apkey or sab k comments ka wait rahy ga







Bachpan main engagements ho jain to jabb bache baaligh ho jate hain or unko bata diya jata hai k wo kise jaga per engaged hain to unka mind jawani k start se hi ik jaga bann jata hai









Apkey comments buhat imp hon ge:salam:
KHUSH RAHIYYE!
WASALAM

[Shaim]

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hmmm me here aap aik acha topic le ker aae ha :rose

mere khial se bachpan kie engament sehe nehi ha jese kie aanchl ne kaha mein un ki bat se 100% etfiaq kerta ho or es trah kie bejor shadiya hamesha nakam hi hote ha

Shukerya zeeshan bhai!:salam:

rite!
ap mere ooper diye hoe kuch benefits dekhye ga........ager sooch main tabdeeli ai to zaroor bataye ga.......ye wo benefits hain jo mera khiyaal hain........or mere khiyalaat surely ghalat bhi hoo sakte hain

KHUSH RAHIYYE!
n thx 4 the opinion

[Shaim]

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It is totally a stupid action by parents. Yes, if the parents or friends families keep an idea in their mind and they wish to manage a couple which they feel suitable, it is acceptable. But no excuse for the engagement during childhood. Parents must show the responsibilities that they are boud to advise their children and have no right to pose their ideas by force. Engagement in the childhood is a sort of unauthorize decision they take forceably. This is not fair. No one can forecast the thinking, mind set and choice of a child not even parents.

This unpleasant custom is still continued in most of our areas but this is one of those numerous customs which are a shame for our muslim society.

1stly u r

`*WELCOME @ PEGHAM*`
:welcome: :welcome:

i m 100% agreed with u
but have a look on post # 23 n tell me if these r not true

n thx 4 the opinion
KHUSH RAHIYYE
WASALAM!:salam:

[Shaim]

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yeh 2 alfaz agar aik dosray say munsalik hooN to kisi sama'at par ach'cha asar nahee daltay.... ab chahay kehnay wala josh-e-khitabat main kahay ya himaqat main....

apne apni rae nahi di bhai?:)
waiting 4 ur opinion also

[.]

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sorry sis main kaafi late ho gae
apkey or sab k comments ka wait rahy ga







Bachpan main engagements ho jain to jabb bache baaligh ho jate hain or unko bata diya jata hai k wo kise jaga per engaged hain to unka mind jawani k start se hi ik jaga bann jata hai









Apkey comments buhat imp hon ge:salam:
KHUSH RAHIYYE!
WASALAM

yeh benefits to nahi lag rehay yeh to zabardasti ka samjhoota lag raha hai :khi: ...or yeh kis nay kaha kay un ki mangani bachpan main hoo jaye to k phir bacche ghalat rahoon per nahi chaltey? main is baat say agree nahi karti ...
or jo yeh baat kahi hai tum nay kay "3rdly wo q k shoru se hi ik dosre ki families se waaqif hoote hain to ik doosre k sath adjust kerna unkey liye asaan hoota hai"...main is say bhi agree nahi karti becoz shadi say pehlay aap banday ko jitna bhi jaan laian shadi kay bad sub kuch badal jata hai ......shadi kay bad naye rishtay bantay hain or naye rishtoo ki nooyeyat badal jati hai .......
itaffaq say jis say bachpan main mangani hoo or baray hoo kar bhi jis taraha kay larkay/larki say aap shadi karna chahtay hoo woh wesa hi hoo tab to usay tabaidar banda hi samajh lia jata hai or parents bhi raazi woh bhi ..lekan yeh "chance" hota hai ...buhat kam hi aisa deekhnay ko milta hai ...

positives point's to atay main namak kay barabar hain or yeh itnay thoos bhi nahi kay in ki side li jaye ....negtaives points beshumaar hain .....aksar khaandanoo main kai kai saloo say isi bina pay dushmanian chali a rahi hain kay flan nay apni bachpan ki mang ko choor kay kisi or say shadi karli ............

[Mr. Sialkoty]

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Bachpan main engagements ho jain to jabb bache baaligh ho jate hain or unko bata diya jata hai k wo kise jaga per engaged hain to unka mind jawani k start se hi ik jaga bann jata hai

Azad zehan ke saath zindagi guzrana her buchay ka haq he...Why do you make the option limited for that particular child. Why don't you let him/her to make their own choice regarding the selection of their life partner. Ok aap ki baat maan lete hein aap ne theek kaha. Aik baat aap se aur kahon ga, ke jub kisi larkay aur aik larki ko pata chal jata he ke wo hi aapis mein aik doosray ke saathi banein ge, then they more offen tend to come closer physically. You must know the end product of it. After their physical engagement, they also don't proceed forward with their sole objectives as well as their carrier. Can you rule out this fact?

[ummid]

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