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If your child consistently refuses to listen, perhaps it is time to think about where they are getting it from, do you always listen to them? Children learn what they are showed and if you want acknowledgement from them every time you talk, you must learn to do the same in return. If they refuse to listen while you are chastising them, they are probably trying to avoid a confrontation and their silence can be a protective reflex. Stay calm , this will hold their attention far better than shouting will. If you keep repeating what you are saying then of course they are going to phase out and lose interest in the conversation.
If it is a teenager who is refusing to listen then make sure that you are talking to them like the almost adult people that they are. Speaking to them calmly and reasonably and dropping the patronizing tone automatically earns you more respect than usual. Very young children don't listen because they are so easily distracted by everything else that is going on so have your semi-serious talks with these youngsters in a quiet room that isn't filled with noise, toys, siblings and a blaring television.
Some children refuse to listen so for no obvious reason but keeping a low, steady tone to your voice will automatically generate more listeners than shouting loudly. It is up to you as a parent to teach your children to respect others and to give others the time and attention it takes to listen to their point of view. If your child still refuses to listen, then change your tact. If, for example, they are told to clean their room and they don't budge or even lift their head in acknowledgement of the instruction, then offer them the choice of cleaning their room or clearing out the garage / mowing the lawn / taking out the bins for a week. This could grab their interest and attention far more quickly than an outright command. Try to learn more about your child understanding them will make any kind of communication far easier.
If it is a teenager who is refusing to listen then make sure that you are talking to them like the almost adult people that they are. Speaking to them calmly and reasonably and dropping the patronizing tone automatically earns you more respect than usual. Very young children don't listen because they are so easily distracted by everything else that is going on so have your semi-serious talks with these youngsters in a quiet room that isn't filled with noise, toys, siblings and a blaring television.
Some children refuse to listen so for no obvious reason but keeping a low, steady tone to your voice will automatically generate more listeners than shouting loudly. It is up to you as a parent to teach your children to respect others and to give others the time and attention it takes to listen to their point of view. If your child still refuses to listen, then change your tact. If, for example, they are told to clean their room and they don't budge or even lift their head in acknowledgement of the instruction, then offer them the choice of cleaning their room or clearing out the garage / mowing the lawn / taking out the bins for a week. This could grab their interest and attention far more quickly than an outright command. Try to learn more about your child understanding them will make any kind of communication far easier.
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