career or shadi ...

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Assalamalikum

har larki kay kuch khawab hotay hain apni zindai kay baray main ..us ka aik apna carrer hota hai ...lekan parhai kay bad jesay hi carrer bananay ki bari ati hai us ki shadi hoo jati hai (mostly aisa hota hia )...shadi kay bad larkiyan itna kuch kar nahi pati shouhar ghar bachay bas inhi main mehsoor hoo kay reh jati hai ....
is leye aaj kal ki larkiyan yeh kehti hai pehlay ham apna carrer banain gee pher shadi karain gee ....woh shadi ko carer ki raah main rukawat samjahti hain ...


aap logoo ka is baray main kia khayal hai ?

[Mr. Sialkoty]

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akswer larkiyaan shadi ko hi apna carrier samajti hein :lol

waise bhi larkiyoon ko apne carrier se ziada us larkay ke carrier ki fiker kerni chahiye jin se un ki shadi honi he...aur jahan tak apnay carrier ki baat he...to mein yeh kahoon ga ke larki ko is baray mein struggle tub kerni chahiye jub us ki shadi nakaam ho jaye ya us ka hubby usay sahi tareekay se support na ker pa raha ho...otherwise there is no need to go for something not necessary at all.

[Aania]

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akswer larkiyaan shadi ko hi apna carrier samajti hein :lol

waise bhi larkiyoon ko apne carrier se ziada us larkay ke carrier ki fiker kerni chahiye jin se un ki shadi honi he...aur jahan tak apnay carrier ki baat he...to mein yeh kahoon ga ke larki ko is baray mein struggle tub kerni chahiye jub us ki shadi nakaam ho jaye ya us ka hubby usay sahi tareekay se support na ker pa raha ho...otherwise there is no need to go for something not necessary at all.

aiewayeen
larrkey larrkion ko dhamkion ke siwa detey kia hain ?? jo un ki fikar kerni chahye ?? huh

Studies.. Career first... shaadi is just the End of life..
after 40's kerni chahye... :khi::lpop:

[Masood]

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Agar larkiyon ki baat hai siraf to meri zaati soch yeh hai keh aik larki ko taleem ki zaroorat aik larkey ki nisbat ziyada hai. Woh is liye keh larki aik nasal ko janam deti hai aur agar woh taleem'yafta hai to woh apni aulad ki behtar tarbiyat kar sakti hai.

Is tarha agar aik larki apna career bnana chahti hai to ussey poora haq hasil hona chahiye - infact main is baat key haq mein hoon keh larki ko independent hona chahiye. Kabhi kisi per inehsaar nahin karna chahiye. Yeh koi zaroori nahin keh woh shadi key baad kaam hi karey - agar halaat ijazat detey hain aur woh ghar mein rehna ziayda pasand karti hai to it's okay - agar woh apna career continue rakhna chahey then it's also okay :)

Career is must !

[Wafa]

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Nice topic Aanchal ji,
mere khayal se lakiyon ka bhi haq hai ke wo larko ki tarha aala taleem hasil kare aur apna career banaye.zindagi me jab bhi koi mushkil waqt aata hai to ye parhae he kaam aati hai.aap ka post hai shadi ya career,both are important but first career then shadi

[Mr. Sialkoty]

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aiewayeen
larrkey larrkion ko dhamkion ke siwa detey kia hain ?? jo un ki fikar kerni chahye ?? huh

Studies.. Career first... shaadi is just the End of life..
after 40's kerni chahye... :khi::lpop:

Dhamkiyaan aur wo bhi musalsal shareef larkay mein ne to hameesha larkiyoon ko dhamkiyaan dete dekha he...larka jese masoom sanaf per aap yeh kia ilzaam aid ker rahi hein...aap ko zaroor kisi ne ghalat bataya ho ga :lpop:

Larkiyoon ko perhai kerni chahiye...aur shadi ker ke sharafat ke saath apne buchay aur miyaoon ko paalna chahiye :lol ager aik larki carrier ke liye apne buchay choor ke bahir niklay gi to us ke saaray buchoon ka carrier daoo pe lug jaye ga...lehaza apne carrier se ziada apne choozon ke carrier ka soochna chahiye larkiyoon ko :lol

[Mr. Sialkoty]

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Agar larkiyon ki baat hai siraf to meri zaati soch yeh hai keh aik larki ko taleem ki zaroorat aik larkey ki nisbat ziyada hai. Woh is liye keh larki aik nasal ko janam deti hai aur agar woh taleem'yafta hai to woh apni aulad ki behtar tarbiyat kar sakti hai.

Is tarha agar aik larki apna career bnana chahti hai to ussey poora haq hasil hona chahiye - infact main is baat key haq mein hoon keh larki ko independent hona chahiye. Kabhi kisi per inehsaar nahin karna chahiye. Yeh koi zaroori nahin keh woh shadi key baad kaam hi karey - agar halaat ijazat detey hain aur woh ghar mein rehna ziayda pasand karti hai to it's okay - agar woh apna career continue rakhna chahey then it's also okay :)

Career is must !

Islami nazam mein merd kamata he aur aurat ghar sambhaalti he...aur is tarah her cheez mein aik symetry rehti he...Ager aik doctor Engineering kerne lag jaye aur saath mein derzi bhi bun jaye, aur moochiyoon walay kaam bhi karay to yeh kuch mayoob ho jaye ga...is liye behtar yahi he ke her koi aik particular field sambhalay, ta ke relations aur profession mein aitdaal rahay:lpop:

waise aap aik aurat ke carrier se kia muraad lete hein...aik aurat kia karay to us ka carrier bunta he...thoora tafseel se bataiye ga

[Mr. Sialkoty]

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Nice topic Aanchal ji,
mere khayal se lakiyon ka bhi haq hai ke wo larko ki tarha aala taleem hasil kare aur apna career banaye.zindagi me jab bhi koi mushkil waqt aata hai to ye parhae he kaam aati hai.aap ka post hai shadi ya career,both are important but first career then shadi

Aap bhi bataiye...larki ka carrier kia hota he...aur wo us ki azdawaji zindagi mein kis had tak khush-gawaar asraat kaim ker sakta he

[Aania]

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Dhamkiyaan aur wo bhi musalsal shareef larkay mein ne to hameesha larkiyoon ko dhamkiyaan dete dekha he...larka jese masoom sanaf per aap yeh kia ilzaam aid ker rahi hein...aap ko zaroor kisi ne ghalat bataya ho ga :lpop:

Larkiyoon ko perhai kerni chahiye...aur shadi ker ke sharafat ke saath apne buchay aur miyaoon ko paalna chahiye :lol ager aik larki carrier ke liye apne buchay choor ke bahir niklay gi to us ke saaray buchoon ka carrier daoo pe lug jaye ga...lehaza apne carrier se ziada apne choozon ke carrier ka soochna chahiye larkiyoon ko :lol

chal beti phir qurbaan ho jaa
sadyon ki reet nibhaani hai
na main koi na tu koi
bas saari dunyadari hai
peda to kia hai beti ko
peda to huii hoon beti hi
to kia taqdeer se jhagrra ho
jab sooli hi charrh jana hai
mardon ka hi ye zamana hai
kuch deen-mazhab ka dhong to hai
per sach to nahen
mardon ne wo apnaya hai
mardon ne wohi apna-na hai
jo un ki marzi un ki raza
ham koaun hamari auqaat hi kiaa
sar uthaya to baghawat ho gi
shaney mila ke chelen ..
to bad-tehzeeb kehlaayen
mardon ka mua-shera purana hai
ham peda hon to rona hai
mar jayen to parsan e haal nahen
chal beti teri baari hai
khamoshi ki sooli charr jaa
taqdeer ka koi dosh nahen..
Rab ki ye raza bhi nahen
kuch zulm andheri dunya hai
teri chalney kis ne deni hai
chal beti phir sooli charr jaa
khamoshi se apney andar mar jaa
yehan koi samajhney wala nahen
aur samjhana baghawat hai
ye matam kesa matam hai
apni hi cheekhen aap suno
apni hi tasweer ka rukh badalna hai
chal beti phir sooli charr jaa
khamoshi ki sooli chaar jaa !!!


by, me ( A ) :(

[Mr. Sialkoty]

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chal beti phir qurbaan ho jaa
sadyon ki reet nibhaani hai
na main koi na tu koi
bas saari dunyadari hai
peda to kia hai beti ko
peda to huii hoon beti hi
to kia taqdeer se jhagrra ho
jab sooli hi charrh jana hai
mardon ka hi ye zamana hai
kuch deen-mazhab ka dhong to hai
per sach to nahen
mardon ne wo apnaya hai
mardon ne wohi apna-na hai
jo un ki marzi un ki raza
ham koaun hamari auqaat hi kiaa
sar uthaya to baghawat ho gi
shaney mila ke chelen ..
to bad-tehzeeb kehlaayen
mardon ka mua-shera purana hai
ham peda hon to rona hai
mar jayen to parsan e haal nahen
chal beti teri baari hai
khamoshi ki sooli charr jaa
taqdeer ka koi dosh nahen..
Rab ki ye raza bhi nahen
kuch zulm andheri dunya hai
teri chalney kis ne deni hai
chal beti phir sooli charr jaa
khamoshi se apney andar mar jaa
yehan koi samajhney wala nahen
aur samjhana baghawat hai
ye matam kesa matam hai
apni hi cheekhen aap suno
apni hi tasweer ka rukh badalna hai
chal beti phir sooli charr jaa
khamoshi ki sooli chaar jaa !!!


by, me ( A ) :(

:( :( :(

Aania...tumhari nazm perh ke me ke aankhon se aansu nikalnay ki nakaam kooshish kerne lagay hein...bohat acha likha he

Ub me tumhein kehta hoon...tum apna carrier banao...me dekhata hoon ke koon tumharay raastay mein aata he

[Aania]

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:( :( :(

Aania...tumhari nazm perh ke me ke aankhon se aansu nikalnay ki nakaam kooshish kerne lagay hein...bohat acha likha he

Ub me tumhein kehta hoon...tum apna carrier banao...me dekhata hoon ke koon tumharay raastay mein aata he

arey me ka taja kalam .... general sense mein hai n its the biggest reality of Eastern Society especially... :)

khudi kaho .. kia yehi nahen hotaa??
yehi musalsal hamesha se nahen hota aa raha ??
aur kia yehi hamesha nahen hota rahey gaa?
Larrkiyon ka Career ... ban bhi jata hai.. when they r at parents home..
lekin shaadi ke baad... do soorten ho jaati hain
ya to husband ji begum ki kamayee per reh jaate hein... weley beth ke TV dekhney jogey yaa...
phir zor-zabardasti .. shak ki bhent char-ha ke .. 4 deewari main qaid ker denaa...
lemme tell u this is just not in india PK or Bd but .. where-eva Easter especially Pakistani people live in the huge world .... it happens...

[ummid]

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aiewayeen
larrkey larrkion ko dhamkion ke siwa detey kia hain ?? jo un ki fikar kerni chahye ?? huh

Studies.. Career first... shaadi is just the End of life..
after 40's kerni chahye... :khi::lpop:

jiyo Aano...:hug:
shadi waqai 30's ya 40's ke baad karni chahiye....
hum apni ammi ko kaafi dinu se wahi sumjha rahe hain....:tauba
such pahle studies aur carrer phir jub establish ho jao tu kisi na kisi per ehsaan karte oye shaadi ker leni chahiye....:khi:

[Aania]

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jiyo Aano...:hug:
shadi waqai 30's ya 40's ke baad karni chahiye....
hum apni ammi ko kaafi dinu se wahi sumjha rahe hain....:tauba
such pahle studies aur carrer phir jub establish ho jao tu kisi na kisi per ehsaan karte oye shaadi ker leni chahiye....:khi:

haha haha..
likh deney se koi maan thorri na jata hai ...
koi manta nahen hai ye fact..
ooo kher...
Allah sab ke haal pe reham fermaaye...
meri mom to kehti hain.. parho beta kuch ban ke dikhao mein tumharey sath hoon.. Allah mujhey taufeeq de ke main unke dreams poorey kero sakoon aameen .. !!!

[ummid]

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haha haha..
likh deney se koi maan thorri na jata hai ...
koi manta nahen hai ye fact..
ooo kher...
Allah sab ke haal pe reham fermaaye...
meri mom to kehti hain.. parho beta kuch ban ke dikhao mein tumharey sath hoon.. Allah mujhey taufeeq de ke main unke dreams poorey kero sakoon aameen .. !!!

aoye Aano jaan...:lol
hum ne studies ke liye apni mama ka jitna sataya hai utna tu ladke bhi nahi satate...:D
woh khud teacher hai aur hume bhi career banae ke liye kahty hai...:tauba
bus hume kabhi kabhi aisi foozol baatein ker ke satate hain..aur kuch nahi....:phool: she loves me a lot....bauaht zyada, apne baiton se bhi zyada....:)

[Aania]

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aoye Aano jaan...:lol
hum ne studies ke liye apni mama ka jitna sataya hai utna tu ladke bhi nahi satate...:D
woh khud teacher hai aur hume bhi career banae ke liye kahty hai...:tauba
bus hume kabhi kabhi aisi foozol baatein ker ke satate hain..aur kuch nahi....:phool: she loves me a lot....bauaht zyada, apne baiton se bhi zyada....:)

:hug: we love u too girly... :hug: