Don’t Allow People and Circumstances Control Your Life

[*Rida*]

• How can we avoid negative reactions, anger, and dwelling on hurts?
• How can we stop taking too personally what someone said?
• How can we stop behaving like a puppet on a string, letting people and circumstances pull our strings?

There are several solutions.
There are several things you can do, when you are in one of the above-mentioned situations, which can help you loosen the effect of people and circumstances on you. These are first-aid steps, and some of them are well known:

1. Breathing deeply a few times, before reacting.
2. Trying to replace your thoughts with positive thoughts.
3. Relaxing your body.

These, and many similar tips are helpful, but sometimes, when in such a situation, you might not remember what to do, or the feelings, anger and reactions are too strong, not allowing you to do something about them.
There is an effective method, but it requires some learning. This is emotional detachmentHere are a few useful tips for emotional detachment:

• Practice letting go.
• Substitute your negative thoughts, fears, and worries, with happy and positive thoughts.
• Learn to observe your thoughts and feelings. In time, this will enable you to detach from unwanted thoughts, feelings and reactions.
• Learn to loosen your attachment to unpleasant memories and the past.
• Avoid people that depress you, let you down, or unjustly criticize you.

By Remez Sasson

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[*Rida*]

Pity..........................I have allowed people to control me and lead me to a pit, whislt knowing this all well.............

sometimes it happens...rather many times..:lol
the reason behind it (what i think ) is emotional blackmailing

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