Confidence building - why is it important?
People with high self esteem behave confidently. Low self esteem stops all your efforts to be confident.
Confidence matters in:
It comes from several sources:
If you lack self esteem or self-confidence you must look above for the reasons. You may be overly criticizing yourself or telling yourself negative things like "I'm bound to fail" or "I'm not good enough" or even "I don't deserve to succeed". These will make failure likely.
Maybe you believe others comments about your inability to succeed or your faults as they see them. What's stopping you proving them wrong or challenging their view instead of accepting it? Defend yourself. Your self esteem depends on it! If you have a poor opinion of yourself, why should others respect you?
Focus on what you have done and you can be proud of.
How can you become more confident and successful?
People with high self esteem behave confidently. Low self esteem stops all your efforts to be confident.
Confidence matters in:
- relationships
- work
- parenting
- life skills - decision making, achieving, improving situations or circumstances you don't like
- expressing yourself
- taking up new challenges
- being open to change
- self improvement
It comes from several sources:
- from within yourself
- from others
- from your achievements
If you lack self esteem or self-confidence you must look above for the reasons. You may be overly criticizing yourself or telling yourself negative things like "I'm bound to fail" or "I'm not good enough" or even "I don't deserve to succeed". These will make failure likely.
Maybe you believe others comments about your inability to succeed or your faults as they see them. What's stopping you proving them wrong or challenging their view instead of accepting it? Defend yourself. Your self esteem depends on it! If you have a poor opinion of yourself, why should others respect you?
Focus on what you have done and you can be proud of.
How can you become more confident and successful?
- Look for a model (someone who is confident) and learn from them. What is it they do that makes them confident, how do they act?
- Focus on your achievements and even if you failed try to work out what you did right and how you could succeed next time
- Act as if you were confident!
- Prepare thoroughly for any task so that you can be sure you are ready
- Work on any skills you need to do what you want, you can never be overtrained or over skilled for any challenge in life.
- Learn relaxation skills
- Always smile
- Set reachable goals for yourself
- Reward yourself when you succeed
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