Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

[thefire1]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

:) ALLAH SWT aap ki joRi ko humesha qayim-O-dayim rakhay aur aap ko khushiyon say nawaazay AMEEN

app nay shaid mairay comments ko sahi read nahi kiya main bothside ki baat ki...........mujhay two three shadi ka koi shoq nahi. iam one women guy. wo hain to main hoon.:hugs:
:alhamd: we are very happy and enjoy the life.
aur jab insaan payaar karta hain to uski khishi kay liyah sab kuch kar deta hai...........

[thefire1]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

Jahan tak main nay paRha hay yaa maashray main observe kia hay umooman TALAAQ pehli shaadi per hoti hay aur mard dosri shaadi tak itna sanbhal jaata hay kay woh wohi mistakes kam hi repeat karta hay, uss main TOLERATION bhi baRh jaata hay aur rafta rafta umar bhaRnay say MATURITY bhi develop hoti hay, in other words aap issay LIFE EXPERIENCE bhi keh sakti hay kay woh har faislay main JAZBAAT ka ansar shaamil nahin karta aur TAHMUL MIZAAJI kay saath har faisla karta hay!!!

ok theek ....par masla yeh bhi hai na kay dosri , tesree shadi main bhi yeh issues a saktay hian to inhay hal karnay ki bajaye Talaq ka rasta hi kio ikhteyar kia jata hai ...:donno:


agay bhi aap post kar saktay hian is topic pay lekan qistoun qistoun main :lol:

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Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

Jahan tak main nay paRha hay yaa maashray main observe kia hay umooman TALAAQ pehli shaadi per hoti hay aur mard dosri shaadi tak itna sanbhal jaata hay kay woh wohi mistakes kam hi repeat karta hay, uss main TOLERATION bhi baRh jaata hay aur rafta rafta umar bhaRnay say MATURITY bhi develop hoti hay, in other words aap issay LIFE EXPERIENCE bhi keh sakti hay kay woh har faislay main JAZBAAT ka ansar shaamil nahin karta aur TAHMUL MIZAAJI kay saath har faisla karta hay!!!

pher banda shadi hi late karay kay tub tuk tahamull a jaye ga rishtoun ko bardasht karnay ka :lol:

[D@y W@lk3r]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

pher banda shadi hi late karay kay tub tuk tahamull a jaye ga rishtoun ko bardasht karnay ka :lol:

wesay main to shadi kay wesay bhi khelaaf hooon..........jab tak insaan friend rehta hain sab sahi chalta hain jaha shadi ki lerki badel jati hain:esmile:

[thefire1]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

Jee bilkul sahi kaha aap nay Aanchal, mera bhi yehi khayal hay kay laRkay aur laRkiyon ko dono ko matured umar main hi shaadi karni chayeh, humaray maashray main hatta kay main apnay ghar ki bhi baat karta hoon kay meri walda-e-mohtarma (ALLAH SWT unhain Jannat-ul-firdous main aala maqam ata karay) ka bhi yehi nazarya tha kay bachoon ki jald az jald shaadi kardain aur meri baRi behan ki shaadi unhon nay srif 17 saal ki umar main kar dee uss waqt meri umar mushkil say 9 saal ki thi aur meri behan aaj tak domestic voilence ka shikaar hay ab hum baybas say lagtay hain kiyonki MASHA-ALLAH 5 bachay hain unkay aur ab unn ko aadat see paR gayi hay!!!

Khair, meri yehi soch hay kay kisi bhi beti ko jab apnay ghar biwi/bahoo bana kar layain tou zehan main apni BETI ka tasawurr zaroor hona chayeh aur UMAR waqayi bohat MATTER karti hay umooman mature larki aur laRkiyan achay say zindagi guzaar saktay hain jabkay kam umar honay ki waja say aksar mamlaat ko samajhnay aur unhain khushasloobi say hal karnay main experience ki kami hoti aur jazbaati faisloon ko ziyada tarjeeh dee jaati hay!

pher banda shadi hi late karay kay tub tuk tahamull a jaye ga rishtoun ko bardasht karnay ka :lol:

[S.Athar]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

اسلام علیکم۔ دی فائر صاحب نے بہت عمدگی کے ساتھ تقریباً تمام ہی بڑی وجوہات پر روشنی ڈالی ہے اور میںنہیں سمجھتا کہ اس مکمل گفتگومیں مزید کوئی وجہ ایسی رہ گئی ہو جسے شامل کیا جاسکے۔دی فائر صاحب کو ان کی اس خوبصورت گفتگو پر ریپوٹیشن کا نزرانہ دینا چاہوں گا۔
البتہ ان وجوہات میں ایک اور وجہ "عورت ہی عورت کی دشمن والا فقرہ ہے"یعنی بعض صورتوں میں کوئی دوسری خاتون اپنی خواہشوں کا دم گھٹنے پر اس شادی شدہ جوڑے کو الگ کرنے کی سازشوں میں مصروف ہوجاتی ہے۔تو یہ بھی طلاقوں کی وجوہات میں سے ایک وجہ ہو سکتی ہے۔

[_Dard_Aashna_]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

hamary district main 20 saal sy koi talak nahi hui ap kaisy keh sakti ho k sharah barr rahi hay

aap k dist. main nahi hoi to is ka matlab hay k kahen bhi aisa nahi hay?

[_Dard_Aashna_]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

aap ka district dunia main basta hai poori dunia aap kay district main nahi basti :lpop:

@ khalil

[_Dard_Aashna_]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

آپ اپنے ڈسٹرکٹ کا حدود اربعہ بیان کرنا پسند فرمائیں گے کہیں آپ نے اپنے غسل 372-hahaخانے کا نام تو " ڈسٹرکٹ " نہیں رکھا ہوا

haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah haaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaahh haaaaaaaaaaaahhahahahaha

372-haha

ye main dill ki gehraaiyon say hansi hoon
thnk u abid bhai

[_Dard_Aashna_]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

وعليكم السلام و رحمة الله

merey khayaal sey is ki sub sey barri wajah hai "Shaadii":lol

kia baat ki gurya meri dukhi aatma :shyy: hamara to dhyan he nai gya tha us taraf

[_Dard_Aashna_]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

Walaikum Assalaam

Main apna khayalaat ka izhaar karna chahoon ga.

Pakistan main waqayi talaaq ka ratio bohat taizi say baRhta jaa raha hay aur iss ki aik do nahin kayii wajoohaat hain.

Sab say pehli waja hay logon kay ma'ashi halaat, rozgaar na hona aur sahi amdani ghar main na aanay ki wajah say FRUSTRATION develop hoti hay, ghar main aurat ghar main rashan kay na honay, bachoon ki paRhayi sahi na honay waghaira ki waja say frustrate rehti hay tou mard bayrozgaari, ayay din bomb blast waghaira ki waja say frustrate ghar lout-ta hay aur yehi aksar tasadum ka bayis banti hay jis ka nateeja extreme per pohanch kar aksar auqaat TALAAQ hota hay yaa shohar ki MAAR PETAYEE say tang aakar aurat khudh hi yeh rah ikhtiyaar karna behtar samajhti hay.

Dosri waja AULAAD ka na hona bhi hoskati hay, kay agar aulaad na ho tou waldain ya shohar khudh aksar TALAAQ ko behatar zarya samajh kar dosti shaadi ki rahain humwaar kartay hay.

Teesi waja extra marital affairs hosaktay hain jo aaj kal bohat aam hogayay hain, pata nahin yaa films waghaira dekh kar yaa jitna ziyada maashray ko azaadi mili hay utna ziyada yeh beemaari phaiti jaa rahi hay!!

Choti waja couples ka TRUST hay umooman talaaq ghalatfehmiyon ki bunyaad per bhi hojaati hain isi liye miyaa biwi ka aapas main aik dosray per TRUST karna bohat zaroori hota hay.

Paanchwii wajah TOLERATION bhi hoskati hay, miyaa biwi main itni MOHABBAT honi chayeh kay woh aik dosray ki choti choti cheezon ko tolrate kar dain, jaisay mard dair say ghar aaya tou uss ki ziyda baaz puras na ho, aurat nay khanay main namak kam daal diya tou uss per hangama na barpa ho, mehaz choti moti ghaltiyon ko nazarandaaz na karnay ki waja say aapas main TANAYOO baRh jaata hay jo kay aksar-O-baishtar talaaq ki noubat tak hi poohanchta hay.

Aik study kay mutaabiq bichlay 10 salaoon main TALAAQ ka ratio Middle and lower class main ziyada baRh raha hay aur Upper class jo kay ayaash tabiyat maanay jaatay thay aur yeh kaha jaata tha kay yeh aik aurat kay saath ziyada arsa nahin reh saktay ab TALAAQ say ijtinaab kar rahay hain.

Mazeed discuss hosakta hay, magar aksar members ko meri posts ki tawaalat ki shikayat rehti hay isi liye main yehi per mehdood karta hoon, khush rahyeh :)

Fi amaan ALLAH

mashaAllah Ali , nice
bohat achi observation hay aap ki hamesha ki tarha acha bolay
aap ki aagay mazeed posts nahi parhi abhi main nay, yahan jo parha us say ittefaq kartay hoye kuch addition karna chahon gi

panchwen waja k bad say kahon gi

* aurat ki ana bhi tallaq ki aik bari waja ho sakti hay , aurat khua ma khua shohar ki brabri karay to..ye magrib zada naara hay k aurat k haqoq ye aur wo falan falan wagera wagera ... mard her surat main aurat say bartar hay , ye baat aurat ko/bv ko tasleem karni chahye , na k muqablay bazi karay .... agar wo nahi manta to main kiun manon main kiun na apni marzi karon ... ye fasaad ka pindora box khul jata hay .* ( aurat main ana naam ki shay nahi honi chahye .aurat main kam say kam shohar k samnay self respect nahi honi chahye ye mera zati khayal hay .)

larki ki zaban drazi bhi aik waja hay.apni man marzi karna .bas main sab kuch hoon baqi sab ko man'ni paray gi meri. shohar to hay he mera be daam gulaam. is type ki soch achi zindagi develop nahi karti.

* aaj kal aik baat main nay apnay aas pas bohat dekhi... k larkiyan shadi k bad bhi kisi dosray say involve hoti hain... aur shadi kisi aur say , shayed ba halat e majbori kar leti hain , magar shadi k baad bhi us say jis say pehlay say affair tha , us say taluqaat qayam rakhti hain ..

is surat main .... ya to shohar talaq dey deta hay
ya larki khud talaq mang leti hay.


ye dono suraten main nay real life main apnay jan'nay walo main dekh rahi hoon... ye tallaq ki aam wajohaat main shamil hain .

* mard bhi talaq k waja hotay hain ... ghar main bv fix deposit ki tarha save rakhtay hain aur bahir moo martay phirtay hain ... is situation pay agar bv jhagray karay ,, to aik had tak bardasht karnay ka ahsaan kartay hain ... phir us k bad get lost kar detay hain. dafa door.*

[_Dard_Aashna_]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

pata nai abhi tuk poora parrha nai....:shyy:

koi kam pora kia bhi hay kbi ?:fight:

[_Dard_Aashna_]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

Assalaam-O-alaikum Khalil

Meri study kay mutaabiq fact and figure kuch yoon hain kay, Gujraat is a district jiss ki abaadi 20 Lakh say bhi ziada hay, Gujrat city ki population 3 say 4 lakh hay aur baaqi jo ilakay hain woh non-district ilaqay hain aur rural area kheltay hay jaisay Jalalpoor jattan, Kanja, saraye-e-aalamgeer, bank of river chanab, waziarabaad waghaira jinn main TALAAQ ki figures NGO's kay paas bhi nahin hain aur yeh ilaaqay meeloon tak pehlay huway hain tou humaray paas kahan say aayain gain!

Barhaal PAKISTAN main koi bhi district/tehseel, gaoo waghaira aisa nahin hay jahan baqaida TALAAQ registered nahin ki gayi hoo pichlay 20 saloon main!

May ALLAH SWT light and guide our ways AMEEN

FI amaan ALLAH

thnx for info. Ali.

[_Dard_Aashna_]

Re: Talaq ki barhti hovi sharha ki wajoohat kia hain ?

i think is main koi galat baat to nahi hain.. ager app ki life apnay partner kay saat achi nahi guzar rahi aur app happy nahi hain to i think apni life ko turn karnay main bura nahi is ka haq Islam bhi deta hain...zindagi aik baar milti hain aur usko bhar por jina chahay. so enjoy and be happy with one or two three:hugs:

D.W bhai mazrat ...

isi tarha ki soch muaashray main bigaar ka baais banti hay .
islam ko mard hazrat do baar yaad kartay hain
aik ,,dosri shadi k liye
aor aik, talaq ka haq yad dilanay k liye .

ye baat yaad nahi k dosri shadi ka haq bhi us surat main , jab her pehlu say dono bv k sath insaf kar sako "her pehlu say"

ye baat yaad nahi hoti , keh islam main tallaq wahid halaal amal hay jis ko Allah pak aur Rasool Allah ( S.A.W.W) na na pasnd farmaya hay ,, isay sheytan ka pasndeedah kaam qarar dia gia hay .

shaeytan aur kisi fasaad say jitna khush nahi hoa utna mian bv k darmiyan na ittefaqi dalwa kar khush hoa , kiun ? waja ?
muashra tabah ho jata hay ghour karen .

reh jati hay baat ye k agr khush nahi to life ko turn karnay k liye wagera wagera ... to bhai aap ko yahan pay islaam ki ye ahadess kiun yaad nahi aain k

*agar tum apni bvyon main koi burai b dekho to usay nazar andaz kar k us ki khoobi ko zehan main jagah do , aur yahi kahayaal karo k aik burai hay to aik achaii bhi to sath hay ...*

mind na karye ga magar mardon ki soch ajeeb o ghareeb hoti hay .
apnay time pay islam yad aata hay magar aadha adhora .

[_Dard_Aashna_]

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Assalaam-O-alaikum

My dear sir, thank you for your kind comments and I fully agree with you kay iss main koi buri baat nahin agar aap apni wife say khush nahin hain tou you should look for alternative wife... laikin what about if wife is not happy with you, will you also give her the same RIGHT to leave you and find another husband?

Jitni zindagi aap ko aziz hay utna hi ikhtiyaar aik aurat ko bhi hona chayeh.

Nabi-e-Karim SAW nay aik jaga farmaya tha kay aik aisa HALAL kaam hay jiss ki ISLAM nay ijaazat tou dee hay magar woh ALLAH SWT kay nazdeek sab say Takleef day fayl hay aur woh hay TALAAQ!!! Jab kisi aurat ko TALAAQ hoti hay naa tou naa srif uski balkay uskay saath saath usskay ghar waloon ki zindagi main jo toofan aata hay woh lafzoon main bayan karna bohat hi mushkil kaam hay!

Mera zaati nazarya yehi hay kay TALLAQ dainay say behtar hay mard aurat ki ijaazat say dosri shaadi kar lay if you can afford to have two, three or four wives!

May ALLAH SWT light and guide our ways AMEEN

Fi amaan ALLAH

well said Ali .agreed