Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

[MeemSheenAlif]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

wasalam

yeh Insaani Nafsiyaat hai... jisey hum log "fear of Rejection" kehte hain......

in first case as you said kisi ko na pasnd karne per hum saaf saaf keh dete hain at that time we dont have this fear... coz we are rejecting someone..... and we think that we are free to do so...

where as in second case... liking someone and informing or telling him/her is a tuff task... coz wahan per fear of Rejection aa ajat hai ke what if he/she rejects me....
isi liye second option mein hum batate hoye darte hain... :

mera bhi yahi jawab he...

[ummid]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

Walaikum Assalam....

pehle case me hum mentally prepare hote he larai k lie...

dosre case me lar nahi sakte....is lie chapiar khane ka dur lagta he

mera bhi yahi jawab he...

ShahRukh

[MeemSheenAlif]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

ShahRukh

matlab agur me serious jawab deta to yahi deta

[Mr.Khan]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

wasalam

yeh Insaani Nafsiyaat hai... jisey hum log "fear of Rejection" kehte hain......

in first case as you said kisi ko na pasnd karne per hum saaf saaf keh dete hain at that time we dont have this fear... coz we are rejecting someone..... and we think that we are free to do so...

where as in second case... liking someone and informing or telling him/her is a tuff task... coz wahan per fear of Rejection aa ajat hai ke what if he/she rejects me....
isi liye second option mein hum batate hoye darte hain... :

:thmbup:

[Mr.Khan]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

pehlay case main napasendida shakash say koi expectation bhi to nahi hoti na ..jo bolna hota hai bool deyta hai banda takay ainda wo banda shakal na bhi deekhye to kis ko faraq parna hai :lol:
or 2nd case main , pasand, expectations zaida hoti hain ...dosray banday kay jawab ki surat main aap ki life pay acha/bora asar par sakta hai ...so is leye banda dair kar deyta hai kehnay main ..so yehi fear rehta hai ..

Yahi to mujhy pochna hai k aisa kyun, jub hum kisi ko refuse karte hen to hume us shakhs k dil tootne ya disheartness ka khayaaal kyun nahi aata, :donno:

aur jub hamare saath aisa ho jaaye to phir hum realize karte hen k us shakhs per b yahi guzri hogi jis ko kabhi hum ne refuse kiya tha ...

[Mr.Khan]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

Walaikum Assalam....

pehle case me hum mentally prepare hote he larai k lie...

dosre case me lar nahi sakte....is lie chapiar khane ka dur lagta he

Tumhri to feeling bhi Petrol k price ki tarah hai ......... roz roz change ho jaati hen ... jabhi u chapair khaane k aadi ho chuke ho 372-haha

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Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

Yahi to mujhy pochna hai k aisa kyun, jub hum kisi ko refuse karte hen to hume us shakhs k dil tootne ya disheartness ka khayaaal kyun nahi aata, :donno:

aur jub hamare saath aisa ho jaaye to phir hum realize karte hen k us shakhs per b yahi guzri hogi jis ko kabhi hum ne refuse kiya tha ...

refuse wali baat to nahi hoo rahi the na yaha :think:

[Mr.Khan]

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refuse wali baat to nahi hoo rahi the na yaha :think:

Bibi, mai ne likha to hai k jub hum kisi ko na pasand karte hen to usay ye batane me koi darr mehsoos nahi karte.......

to refuse karna ek hi baat hui na :donno:

[MeemSheenAlif]

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Tumhri to feeling bhi Petrol k price ki tarah hai ......... roz roz change ho jaati hen ... jabhi u chapair khaane k aadi ho chuke ho 372-haha

yeh neeli neeli aankho ko mujh se chupa lo...
hamein zinda rehne do aae husn waloooooo..

[Mr.Khan]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

yeh neeli neeli aankho ko mujh se chupa lo...
hamein zinda rehne do aae husn waloooooo..

Ye koun c qawali hai :hhh:

[MeemSheenAlif]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

Ye koun c qawali hai :hhh:

junoon ki he..u ne suni he:q:

[Mr.Khan]

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junoon ki he..u ne suni he:q:

Nahi jee :donno: ,,,,,, mai ne to woh wali suni hai qawali :p


Husn walon se pocho kese jee rahe hen deewanay
Husn walon se pocho kese khatam hon ge bahanay

[MeemSheenAlif]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

Yahi to mujhy pochna hai k aisa kyun, jub hum kisi ko refuse karte hen to hume us shakhs k dil tootne ya disheartness ka khayaaal kyun nahi aata, :donno:

aur jub hamare saath aisa ho jaaye to phir hum realize karte hen k us shakhs per b yahi guzri hogi jis ko kabhi hum ne refuse kiya tha ...

ajj kisi ne dil tora to hum ko jaise dehyan aaya
jis ka dil hum ne tora tha wo jane kaisa ho ga...

abb kia sochein kia hona he..
jo ho ga acha ho ga

[MeemSheenAlif]

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Nahi jee :donno: ,,,,,, mai ne to woh wali suni hai qawali :p


Husn walon se pocho kese jee rahe hen deewanay
Husn walon se pocho kese khatam hon ge bahanay

to phir batein...kab khatam hon ge bahane

[Mr.Khan]

Re: Aisa Kyun Hota Hai Bar Bar ......

ajj kisi ne dil tora to hum ko jaise dehyan aaya
jis ka dil hum ne tora tha wo jane kaisa ho ga...

abb kia sochein kia hona he..
jo ho ga acha ho ga